We all want close friends and family. We all want that good feeling that certain people are always gonna be there for us! But that isn't always going to be the case, why? Because your friends don't pay your bills and you don't pay theirs.
Some people make the mistake of designing their life around not wanting to leave their current friends and family. Some people give up great job opportunities for this same reason, or some give up on their own dreams. Now I believe that happiness is the top factor! Because if you move, makes tons of money, and aren't happy. Then the money isn't going to matter. Just the same as if you stay and you're not happy.
Here's the fallacy in giving up on your goals in order to stay close to friends or extended family. Because your friends and family, most likely, are going to move on! Because money and happiness are more important, to most people, then friends and extended family. So how are you going to feel when you give up opportunities for your close friends and later down the road they don't do the same for you?!? You have to be selfish in this sense! Why? Because everyone else is. Its just part of growing up! What's the order list we're taught how our life's priorities should be? First God, if you're Atheist, skip this one. Second family, immediate. Third career, money. And forth, country. Close friends and extended family doesn't make this list!
I had a ton of friends growing up. We have a lot of good times! Why did I have a lot of friends? Because I had a pool and because I played drums. I never had a moment when someone didn't want to hang out! The moment the pool was gone and I stopped playing drums, the friends were gone. These weren't people a knew for a short time! These are people a seen everyday for years. People I spent the night with, etc.. How many countless times I stuck my neck out for these people!
Many years have past. Do you know how many of these people have called to see how I was doing? Zero. Do you know how many of these people helped me get a job when I needed one? Zero. Now years ago people just lost contact because of life. There is no excuse why a person can't be contacted in today's world. Anyone one who has a facebook can be found in 5 minutes. And its not because I haven't made efforts. Its 100% on the other end!
Now if I could, would I go back and change anything? No, we all had good times! But I wished I was more selfish in doing what I wanted to do. Maybe instead of playing with friends, I could of been planning what college I was going to go to etc.. Or instead of playing with friends, starting a home-based business instead. Either one would of been more useful! I've always tried to do what I can for others. And when others can't do the smallest of things in return says a lot!
This applies to your brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, etc.. too. Because when you have to start making money. You then have to do what makes your boss happy. Its the saying, "Don't bite the hand that feeds you." If you make $50/k at your job and your parents don't pay your bills. Then you're going to cater to your employer and not your parents. Just the same as your friends. If you're not paying your friends bills, then you're never going to be in the top of that person's list!
There's a saying that when you get to the end of your life, you only really have one or two real friends. So the moral of the story is, you can't plan your life around your friends! We live in a world where friends are just people we hang around because its convenient. For example; person works job A, you hang out with people at job A. You move on to job B, you then leave your job A friends behind and now hang out with the friends at job B. It's just how it is! So if you don't want to be taken advantage of, then be selfish!
I think we emphasize friendships too much in our culture! Why emphasize something that isn't real to such a high degree?!? You can't plan your life around what you think others are going to do! I thought when I was young that everyone would get married, have kids, stay in small town life, and we'd all barbeque and let our kids run around together. Not true! 100 people have lived 100 different life's. I thought maybe people would remember all I did for them and do for me if I needed it. Wrong! Those people have done absolutely nothing in return! That's people for you! People are only going to do something for you as long as they think they'll need you in the future. Like if you can get them a job or do them a future favor.
So in all of my years alive, all of the people I've met, worked with, went to school with, etc.. I have one friend that halfway stays in touch. But if you want a lot of friends, then get a pool!
Share this on your facebook and twitter!
Join My Blog!!!
- Juggs Ó 2014
follow me at:
http://www.facebook.com/ASecretLie
http://twitter.com/ASecretLie
http://www.youtube.com/ASecretLie
http://asecretlie.blogspot.com
Get a free sample of my book at:
http://www.amazon.com/dp/B007P5CJKM
email: asecretlie@gmail.com
No comments:
Post a Comment